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Every so often, usually when Pride is on but also when I'm meeting new people, I get really antsy about clarifying that I am not and have never been a lesbian. Nor do I identify as 'sapphic'—in fact, I strongly reject any label that implies one taste or one preferred flavour.

Fact is, I am bisexual and have been out as such since I was thirteen. Being in a longterm monogamous relationship with another cis woman does not change that. If I had to choose a second sexuality label, it would simply be "horny". (I have semantic concerns about 'pansexual' and how its common usage as 'more inclusive than bi' contributes to the othering of trans folk. Trans women are women, trans men are men.)

I find it conceptually easier to relate to someone who's ace rather than someone who's straight or strictly gay/lesbian. The dichotomy between "all" and "nothing" makes more far sense to me than "this one NOT that one". How is someone's genitals a significant contributing factor, it does not compute.

I am really sensitive about duplicity, to the extent that it troubles me immensely to imagine someone assuming this incorrectly about me, even though I'm pretty sure most people who know me already know this about me.

Please enjoy this throwback era post. I should be over this kind of shit by now, eh?